Some things I have (and haven't) learned since our wedding day.
Now that I’ve been a “Mrs.” for a whopping 6 months, I'm practically an expert at this whole being married thing, aren't I? LOL, just kidding! I still have LOTS to learn.
But I have learned a few things during this early newlywed stage, and since today is our half-year marriage anniversary, I'd like to share some things I have (and haven't) learned since then. For those of you not married yet, take this as a warning! ;) JK.
Getting used to a new name is harder than expected
For the first month or two after getting married, I would accidentally introduce myself with my maiden name. It didn't become second nature until I had changed my name on absolutely every account I could think of. That, and practicing my new signature on 10 sheets of paper.
But just as I thought I had got the hang of writing and saying my new name, something else caught me by surprise: new initials.
We were at the bank setting up our bank accounts and the banker asked me to initial some documents. So I quickly scribbled out my initials in the three tiny boxes and sat back, only to hear my husband kindly point out that, "Those aren't your initials, hun". What? Sure enough, there were little BHs where the BNs were supposed to be. Since I don't write my initials very often, who knows how long it's going to take me to get the hang of it!
Sharing a bed is also harder than expected
We didn't live together before marriage, so we both had this idea that going to bed together would be all angelic, wonderful and tranquil, which it is now, don't get me wrong. I love nighttime cuddles! It just wasn't always the case. The honeymoon was all angelic, wonderful and tranquil, it was the everyday going-to-bed that hit us by surprise.
1. You need to discover which side is truly your side of the bed. For the first week back at home, I slept on the left and Caleb slept on the right. We had all sorts of sleeping issues until we switched sides. So much better. Who would've thought we had bed side preferences?
2. Also, *hangs head* women do hog the sheets. This has been solved this by tucking one side of the sheets under the mattress.
3. Agree on a bedtime routine and go to sleep at the same time! Unless you have special circumstances, wait up for your spouse or make the effort to hit the hay earlier. This was hard for us since Caleb wanted to stay up and I wanted to go to sleep. My advice would be to decide on a bedtime routine together and stick to it as much as you can.
Patience, patience, and more patience
Marriage requires patience, encouragement, and forgiveness. Lots of it. As we learn more about each other, we've also learned to be patient with each other as we learn together how to be a husband and wife. We’re not perfect, nor should we expect perfection of ourselves or our spouse.
Marriage is not about your happiness
I read this my freshman year of college and it's been engrained in my head since then. Marriage has taught me that I am incredibly selfish. I think about my own wants far too often. As husbands and wives, we need to love selflessly, without resentment. This is, by far, the most important thing I've learned.
I once heard that marriage is a school that you will never graduate from. There's always something new to learn. For those of you about to enter this school, remember to love unconditionally, hug and kiss often, have lots of patience, and don't forget to double check your initials.
Do you have any funny memories or things you learned when you first got married? Comment them below!
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